This post was inspired by a very good friend of mine. Actually the title was her idea too.
I think the overall perception is that none of us get along with our in-laws. For my friend, this is exactly the case. Her lemon-in-law, as she calls her, even lives with her. Hence the beginning of "Operation get momma to leave". This just makes me giggle. This covert operation would make the CIA jealous of the skills this woman is using to rid her home of this third wheel.
Check out the mother-in-law song
As moms, we are the first woman that our sons fall in love with. I am the mother of a grown son, and it's definitely an adjustment when you are not #1 in your sons life anymore. Someone else is queen bee, and truly that's how its suppose to be.
My husband's mother past away before we were married. But, I did have a mother in law with my ex husband. To be honest with you, she was an amazing lady. I'm still very close to her. The marriage didn't last, but that friendship did. Love you Janet!
If you are a trying to find a way to have a civilized relationship with this person that, even though she gave birth to your husband but is trying to rule his life now, be patient. Understand that this is a very tight bond that is not easy to let go of. She could also be you insight to why he does some things he does also.
If you are the mother-in-law, for you own safety, let his wife take the lead that he has chosen her to take. If your son had wanted you to always be in control of his life, he would have never left home and you would still be washing his dirty underwear. She is the gateway to any future relationship you might have with him or your grandchildren.
So let's call a truce and mend these fences so we can all say we love our in-laws instead of
thinking of them as lemon-in-laws!
Until next time- Safe Picking!
Tammy
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